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20 Steps How to Be Cool at School !!!
this entry special to people with less or no self-confidence like me :) or you wanna be cool . Hahaha
Let's start !
Step 1 : Always remember, the first day of school is the most crucial. First impressions are EVERYTHING ! It's how people will perceive you as , for a while at least , until they get to know you better , which will take time. Be kind and nice and people will know you as a good person.
Step 2 : If you are a total newcomer , try to find people who have similar interests to your own, which will provide an easy icebreaker conversation. Being new is a benefit , because (unless you were very popular at your old school) you'll have a whole new , fresh start and a chance to get a new identity.
Step 3 : Try to identify who's where on the "social ladder" , but on the first day , just try to get settled in ! If you are new , your main goal on the first day should just be to make friends ! Be friendly and socialize with as many people as you can without getting them mixed up. Do not try to be friends with them only because they are "popular." However, after you've been in school for a while and are settled in , you can be friend one of the nicer popular people , they'll be your ticket into "the group." At the end of your first year in the school , try to have found some close friends to regularly spend time with. Having a wide variety of friends helps a lot.
Step 4 : Avoid being a bully and avoid becoming the victim of one. Don't be mean to other people in your school just to make yourself seem cooler. In fact , people generally hate bullies. Also, don't let bullies push you around. It's easier said than done, but in school, using your sense of humor and good social tactics are key.
Step 5 : Remember as confusing as this next sentence will sound , think about it. Don't care about what you think other people think of you. Just go with the flow. If you know for sure someone is judging you you can voice it, then just act like you don't care... because you don't. Practice thinking this way and your confidence will improve via self-acceptance. People at school will start wondering where you got all this self esteem!
Step 6 : Have your own sense of style. Discover the clothes you prefer/like to wear and create your style. Wear those clothes to school and be unique, but try to know what's fashionable and be up-to-date ! Be ahead of the pack. Be a leader, not a follower, okay. that's what makes you cool. Don't worry about the people who judge you about your clothing. Hang out with friends who like your personality, sense of fashion, etc. ( In Malaysia, we must wear school uniforms! :( )
Step 7 : Be independent. You don't need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be cool. Only go out with someone if you actually like each other, don't just find a boyfriend/girlfriend who is popular, so you will seem cooler. Love isn't about popularity. Actually if you become close friends with a guy/girl then it might even be more fun going to hanging out, you don't exactly NEED to be in love. If you have a secret crush, try getting really close to them then eventually they might even fall for you too !
Step 8 : Be open-minded. This is very vital. Some people have different opinions and tastes so don't go gossiping about them just because they don't agree with you.
Step 9 : Respect people. Respect others beliefs and cultures.
Step 10 : Smile. Don't put a fake one too. Try to keep it natural. Don't be sarcastic to people until you're on good terms with them, don't act like you need attention, and don't look like you're trying too hard. Be patient. Keep doing your thing. Someone's bound to notice.
Step 11 : Have a nice hairstyle. Try a buzz cut or laxer flow if you're a boy, side bangs if you're a girl. Straightening or perming your hair is also very cute! Or at least find a cute hairstyle that fits you face, and your fashion. (For freehair girls)
Step 12 : Be fit, clean, and smell good . The first two are compulsory. Brush your teeth, exercise, etc. The third, you don't have to smell nice, just don't smell at all. Deodorant and a bit of perfume over that is good. Not too much. Or just deodorant. Just don't smell bad. It will make your rating go way down.
Step 13 : Always remember that attitude is a key factor in how people look at you. Have a great personality. Be talkative (Do not over okay), nice , and have charisma ! As you get to know others, figure out who is comfortable and nice to you, and those who are not the nicest to you. If you come across anyone who doesn't like you, just treat him/her like how you'd treat everyone else.
Step 14 : Make funny jokes ! But it isn't cool when you make jokes about your friends. It'll hurt their feelings. Being cool doesn't mean being naughty. Behave in class. Sometimes it's time for jokes, sometimes it's not. Don't be too cocky or too much of a show-off. This will make your rating go down.Don't make rumors because that may make people hate you too.
Step 15 : Don't ever talk back to teachers. It is disrespectful, makes you look bad, and they will watch you from then on.
Step 16 : Just because some popular girls like bad boys, a lot of popular girls also love cute, funny, neat, polite boys. It's your choice though.
Step 17 : And about make-up , Don't wear it JUST BECAUSE the other girls do. Only wear a style of makeup (bold, natural, etc) if you love the way it looks on you! Just don't go too overboard ... It's alright if you do not wear make-up at all ! Look natural .
Step 18 : Don't be fake. One thing a lot of kids hate or like is being fake. Think about it. If you have a good friend that is not exactly popular, don't ditch him/her for some fake show-off that fills the hallways of school getting attention for having too much make-up. Ewwww >< Maybe that friend that you just gave up on would have been your best friend! People can tell if you're fake or not. Just because someone is popular doesn't mean they are fake. Look at people from the inside. Do not get considered attention seeker.
Step 19 : Remember ! 'Social ladders' as they appear in high or middle school generally disappear when you graduate. Why? It is mostly because kids who have constructed the social ladder will suddenly develop brains and realize that the world doesn't work that way. Once free from this social structure, you should be more than comfortable being yourself in a world which is rapidly accepting new personalities.
Step 20 : Try to get involved in things (like cheerleading,football, basketball etc.) or participate in a group or a popular sport
By the way , more fun if we become yourself :) Bukan semua budak " Cool " ada keyakinan diri pun . Hahahaha
Loving and peaceful by nature, this person is thoughtful and unselfish. Always thinks of giving rather than receiving. A joy to know =) Gadis 9 September. Official Blog Of Me , Syahirah yusri.